Irresponsiblity/Disgustingly Wrong

THIS WOMAN infuriates me. And honestly, not that many things make me really mad.

As someone who know many people who "needed" or "need" IVF and would give their left arm to be able to afford it, this is grossly wrong on so many levels.

Many will say that it's her "right" to have as many babies as she wants. Really? It's her right until it's my or your tax dollars that have to pay for said babies. And more so than that, poor babies!!!?!?! They will probably not grow up having they type of life that all kids deserve.

My husband and I would like to add a 3rd child to our family, but the fact remains that we feel we cannot afford to right now. We wouldn't be able to provide for the new child and our other 2 children we already have.

This woman is an outrage. No wonder she refuses to talk to the press.

Pants on Fire!

I've talked before about my brother who lies alot. Lately it's getting worse. He lies about stupid trivial things though. Things that are silly, but things that make him feel important and powerful. For example he claims to "run" a local radio station. However in reality, he only makes sure that no is dead air during a pre-recorded broadcast. He claims that he heads a bible study group of "several people" when I know from bible study advisor that his group that has been shut down for a while now. He claims that my folks gave him the third degree about a girl that he used to "date", even going as far as saying that they were pestering him to get back together with her. When I mentioned this to my dad (who honestly never lies) he had no idea what I was talking about because obviously, that convo had never happened. He lies about doing things like eating at certain resturants that have been closed for year and about things like swearing that the way I pronouce procuttio is wrong. "My roommate is Italian, I swear to god you are saying it wrong." BTW: he has no Italian roommate.

I just hate lying. I hate lying on all levels, but lying about such trivial things is so annoying and stupid to me. I mean, I just hate it. It's like insulting to have someone lie to you about things that you know aren't true, yet they still try to force you to believe them. I am not stupid enough to believe that after just being hired, he's responsiuble for the entire production of a nationally broadcasted radio program. I am not stupid enought to believe that he's seen a live birth as he once stated "Of couse I've seen a live birth, duh I work in a hospital." YEAH, IN THE CAFETERIA, YA IDIOT! Let me tell you if the cafeteria boy showed up in the delivery room when I was in labor I would be pissed! I just want to tell him that EVERYONE knows he a liar and that he should shut up before it damages more realtionships. I just don't understand why someone would intentially make themselves look so stupid!??!

It's been a while

Hi! I've been so busy that I have been a major blogging slacker. There's been a lot going on!

• I started a new business venture that concentrates on something that I LOVE to do. It's working out well, I am making a little money. But I feel a sense of accomplishment that I haven't really felt since becoming a mom. Weird, but true, I can't really explain. So if you need some gourmet food product in your life, send me an email or comment and I will link you privately.
• We decided to take our oldest to Disneyland when she turns 3 in January. I am more excited than she is. As a kid I went there like 2 times a year because we lived close and my dad worked there in college and got some discount. I can't wait. She's tells everyone, even strangers that she' going. It's awesome.
• 1 year old is still teething and being good about it, but I can tell she's hurting, poor babes. I hate seeing her sad. In other news, she is happy as can be most of the time and even sleeps likes an angel. We are totally blessed when it comes to good sleepers. Little one sure is tolerant and accepting of having a bossy bigger sister. THANK GOODNESS!
• I am feeling fatter than ever even though I am down almost 15 lbs. The husband has been working out and weight lifting 5 days a week now and is trying to show me up, so now I have to try and 30 day shred 4 times a week or more. boo. i hate Jillian Michael.
• My almost 3 year old keeps asking me if I have a coconut on my head. oh and BTW she is potty trained and sleeps in a big girl bed since the last time I blogged. Sweet relief!! 1 down, one to go!
• Oh and am I the only one who thinks that Ross and Target could turn the Christmas Muzak down just a bit? I couldn't even hear myself think!

so what's up with you???

Blabbermouth

My oldest daughter loves to talk. She's been speaking in sentences since she was 2--she's almost 3. I love it most days. But what the heck am I supposed to do when she starts divulging things to people that I don't really want her to. For example she tells everyone, including strangers and my family a version of:

"I broke the curtains in sister's room and mommy told me, tell me the truth! and then I got a time out. And then mommy told me, NO! And i broke the curtain. and annd and then I am not allowed to throw water out the bathtub. And mommy spanked me, and took my paci and I had to go night night."

OR

"i can't tie my sissy up with a jump rope my daddy says no. and i can't hit her. my daddy yelled at me. i'm not allowed to have my pink princess jumprope. I have to be nice to my sister girl or daddy yell at me."

it's true, she did break the curtains over a month ago, and she did get a time out. she did dump about a gallon of water out of the tub for the zillionth time, and i did smack her butt one time and put her directly to bed. it's also true that my very kind and gentle hubs yelled at her not to tie up her sister. it's all true. but how do we get her to keep it to herself?????

Loooook Mommy!

I am really over the commercials that are making my 2 year olds' head almost explode with shear joy!

"Look mommy, a princess KITCHEN! A princess kitchen! I looooove that princess kitchen!"

and

"Look mommy, those baby dolls are swimming!"

and

"Look mommy, it's WUBZY!!!"

She isn't asking me to buy those things, she's just excited to see them I guess. Her favorite reading material these days is the Lillian Vernon, Pottery Barn and ABC catalogs. Like mother like daughter?

Noooooooo!

My youngest daughter makes this face that looks just like a scathing look that MIL gives!!!!

Ahhhhhhh! It's so scary.

I hope she grows out of it!

That's all, thanks.

Stealing from Constance (6 things)

I stole this six things meme from the OG Constance

1. I get really frustrated when people miss spell or confuse the words two, too and to.
2. I love the 99 cent store. I never need anything from there, but I love it.
3. I recently read Twilight, and and not at all ashamed to admit that I might be partially in love with a vampire named Edward. It's cool, the hubs already knows.
4. I found myself vetoing things that my mom wanted to do with kid just beause I felt like being a jerk and pulling the "well, I am her mom" card.
5. I can't even remember the last time I said the F word outloud, but I say it in my head ALL THE TIME.
6. I never use the term hate but I HATE Heidi Montag, Spencer Pratt and Justin Bobby.

BONUS
7. I let me kids watch TV sometimes I don't feel bad about it one single bit.



Thanks for the comments about dealing with my mother. Today was day one, and it was ok. It was a short visit, which was good because I can only take her in small doses.

Ramble Rant.

My mom is returning from an extended vacation with her husband (for the 15th year in a row-no really, this is the 15th year). It started when I was in Jr High, and now I am married with 2 kids. She's missed a lot, but always tried to butt in when she is here. Anyway, I am bummed out because her presence just stresses me out. What I had previously considered to be her quirky ways, now seem a bit crazy and uhh... bizarre. I totally trust her to watch my kids (and it's a nice reprieve) but then we have issues. Because in her twisted little head I think she thinks that my kid is me when I was that age. And since she chose her husband (the man she cheated on my dad with) over her 3 kids, she has some making up to do. Like take my kid to McDonalds even though I said no. Also my kid is 3 now very smart. It's gonna be hard when she leaves again, and I have to try and explain it to my kid.

That's all. I feel insight full all of the sudden.

Give me strength. She'll be here in 1 day.

Updates

• I opened and Esty shop and I really hope it's going to be successful! If you want to know the addy, email me.
  
• My diet is going well. I've been working out and counting calories, and cutting off wine and other booze so that's some calories lost. The bummer is that I am sick and the last thing that I want to do right now is exercise.
• My kid is doing well with the potty training. She keeps holding her poops and I am not sure what to do about that.
• I can see into the future that this kid is not going to want to be told what to do and that scares me. Sometimes it's like she's a rotten teenager in a 2.5 year old body.
• The other kid who is 1 has done everything sooner than her older sis including, sitting, rolling over and walking months earlier in fact, except talking. She babbles a lot and says mommy and daddy and hi and baba, but that's all. Is this normal for the 2nd sib? Maybe she's the quiet one? She sure is super happy all the time.
  
• I'm pretty excited that I am hosting Thanksgiving this year at our house, even if my MIL does come. My hope is that if she comes for Tday she won't come for Christmas.
  
• I nearly filleted my finger the other night with a butter knife. It is so gross. Husband wrapped it up and stopped the bleeding. I prob could have used a couple of stitches, we butterfly bandaged it instead. No ER for me!
• I am stoked that fall is here. The bummer is that I am caffeine free and can't enjoy the beloved pumpkin spice fraps.
• That's all for me. Hope everyone is enjoying the lover-ly fall.
  

Moooo

I've been really bad about taking good care of myself recently. After the birth of both of my girls I've gained 50lbs. In less than 4 years. True, I had 2 kids in 3 years, but still, it's bad. So while I have been really good at justifying my rapid weight gain, I have done nothing to stop it or to lose it. So, I've started a pretty regimented work out program and serious calorie counting. I don't mind the calorie counting, because it's allowing me to still eat the yummy things that I like (excluding things like frappachinos, cheese, chocolate and bread.) I also really like the exercising because it's burns calories of course, but I am enjoying the extra burst of energy. I've lost a little bit of weight already and can't wait to meet my goals. I really don't want to be a cow anymore.

Worst Mom

My almost 3 year old drinks alot. (That sounded funn.) She drinks water and apple juice, although the apple juice is 1/4 juice and the rest water, but anywaaaay. I try to be diligent about not letting the cups sit out, but she must have hid one or somehting because last night she took a drink of one and made a gross face and started making some kind of choking noise.

As if that wasn't bad enough, she woke up last night crying and smelling like throwup, something she never does.

Go ahead, nominate me for Worst Mom.

Play Date Dillema

My almost 3 year old and I just returned from a B-day party at a local park. It was for a little boy we know. He just turned 3 and has a 4 year old brother who my kiddo plays with. Anyhow, I hesitate a lot to spend time with this particular family because their kids are rough. And they don't listen, and sorry to admit it, but they are kind of dirty too. They never have shoes on are manners are atrocious. So we don't have too many play dates. I like their mom, but she's kind of loopy and one of those mom's who is always waiting for a photo op. It sort of exhausting.

Then I started thinking about this, and I realize I have another friend who has kids that my kids like to spend time with and I feel the same way about them. Although, I do like that mommy a little better. But even she's a bit of a space case.

I am not a clean freak, or the type of mom that is following her kids all around the play ground. I do carry a lot of Purelle who doesn't? I am not uptight or super strict about things. I kind of just go with the flow, but do appreciate order. Anyway, my kid likes playing with these boys, but always ends up having some bad habits and attitudes when playtime is over, such as hitting and telling me no. I don't dig it.

So while I have feel genuinely (a little) bit bad that I have sort of distanced myself from these moms (because of their children), aren't I supposed to approve of who my kids spends time with? My kids are only almost 3 and barely 1. When is the right time to start filtering friends? Am I too picky? Am I some kind of jerk? I hate play dates.

Well, DUH!

Guess what? Even Clay Aiken did it!

We Know You Are Gay, and it's OK.

I have a brother who is 6 years younger than me. He's the youngest of us three kids, I am the oldest. We have always been close. Even when my folks divorced and he lived far, far away, we would write and talk on the phone. So to say that I know him well, is very true. And also when I say that he is a total homosexual hiding way, way, way deep in the depths of the proverbial closet, it's true too.

I guess it started early, he always exhibited signs of being gay. And a few years back, my mom and my dad both found gay porn on their computers that my bro had used. Pages, and pages and pages of it. Now he is in college, bouncing around different jobs and whatnot. He's 23. He's lived in a few different places where he has rented and shared rooms. He's very much busy body and loves to be in everyone's business. He also thinks that he knows everything, including parenting and family management. Since he is more on his own now, and lives about 30 from the nearest relative, he has been exercising his right to dress in what he calls a very "metro-sexual", as he calls it, way. For example, he has come to my house wearing a fedora, and a vest. Jonas Brothers style.

About 2 years ago my husband and I invited him toa church that we had been going to, and he became very involved in it. We ended up stepping away from the church because it was not the right place for us to be. The congregation was too young, and their soul mission was to win souls for Jesus, via intimidation (not really, pressure and guilt. Ok, I guess that was dramatic, but the point is-we ended up not liking the church and left. My bro stayed. And by staying, he jumped thru all the church requirements, and did all the things necessary to "move up" the ranks and has become quite a little wannabe leader.

anyhow, it's no big deal to me if he is gay. Two of my BFF's are gay. I would still accept him as I do now. Actually I might respect him more, because right now he appears to be living a big fat lie. Which is sad. And his overcompensation for trying to prove that he's not gay is just wrong.

I don't think I could ever confront him on this. He would deny it. But it is so obvious. What to do?

More MIL Madness.

My MIL lives about 400 miles away. She has no job. She has NO responsibilities. She complains to my Husband all the time that she misses our kids and blah blah blah. We invite her to come up all the time, and I have even told her that our home is always open for her to visit whenever she wants because I don't want it to seem like my husband and i think that she is a lunatic and that we secretly beyond ecstatic that she lives far away. This Sat we are having a family only 1st bday party for my youngest and she's not coming because she doesn't want to drive. And she hasn't even RSVP'd she just isn't responding to our invite. GRRRR. My husband told me that if she EVER mentions missing our kids again, he's gonna tell her to "shut her face." Good for him! At least I don't have to talk to her.

Am I The Only One....

...who is totally O-V-E-R Oprah?

I mean seriously. I am so over her. I think she's pretentious and annoying. I see her only like this now.

Politics

How do you feel about the news that John McCain's VP pick, Sarah Palin's 17 year old, unwed daughter is pregnant?

Personally, I think it's reality and it's doesn't bother me at all.

FIGURES!

So my last post discussed my worries about being a good hostess and catering to my sister in laws stupid needs. Thanks for all the advice---you are all so wise!

However, it wasn't needed because she flaked at 9:30pm the night before via text message.

Did she offer to pay for the $150.00 tickets that we bought on her behalf (with the knowledge that she would have to pay us back?) NO. Did she even say sorry? NO! Am I surprised? NO!! What a jerk.

Now when ever someone says or does something that is incredibly thoughtless and rude, we say "OMG that is sooooo ______ _______." (Sorry, can't revel her name.)

What To Do?

So the hubs and I are meeting my BFF (and one of his pals) at a sporting event this weekend. We are tailgating and staying the night without kids...YIPEE! I love to cook so I am excited to make some sausages with dipping sauces, grilled chicken with my own spice blend and various other delicious and naughty delights. We got a huge cooler and planning on having some serious unwind time since normally we have our kiddos and responsibilities. Not this weekend though!

We are all excited to go and then I remember (dun dun duuuuuun) that my SIL and flavor of month are coming too. Grrreat. First of all they haven't paid us for the tickets that we got which is a total of $125.00 that I am sure we will get stiffed for. Next, his sister is a (fake) vegetarian. I swear she still eats meat. So, she would tell you that it's because she thinks that nothing should die to become food and because meat is so unhealthy! But since she smokes Marlboro Reds and drinks practically every night, and lives off Jack in the Box tacos so how concerned is she with her health. And animal rights? She once left her dog here for 6 months, never called about it, never sent money for food-NOTHING. Whew. That felt good.


Anyway....here's my question:

Knowing that she is a vegetarian, do I have to make something different for her??? Would you? Why or why not? Thanks, C's.

oh and PS: she won't eat fish.

Three things...

...that I am looking forward to are....

1. going shopping alone later
2. a mini vacay with the hubs and my bff this weekend
3. when the day comes that i change my last diaper

How about you?