Saturday, June 28, 2008

In Conclusion

One thing that Husband and I have learned throughout our relationship is that keeping a cool head and not over reacting to situations (especially situations that we have no control over) really pays off. We had money sitches, health scares, car break downs, family drama etc, etc, and every time we kept it together and tried to see the positive in the ordeal, it worked out just fine. Sometimes better than fine.

So that's what Husband did this weekend and he says that it was actually really a cool wedding and he is glad he went. I am relieved that he found a way to enjoy himself. Isn't it a wondrous thing what a good attitude (and 3 beers and 3 margaritas) can do?

Oh, and somehow, my MIL turned all his misfortune in his travels to be about her. She called me and was snippy and quick with me in asking "did my son make it to NJ ok?" I guess he didn't answer when she called him. She must have said ten times that he doesn't answer his phone. When she knew I had talked to him several times, she got mad. She didn't even ask how the kids or I were. BIZARRE!! Thank goodness Husband always sides with me.

Thanks for letting me vent about this neighbors. It feels so good!

Thursday, June 26, 2008

sorry

sorry neighbors. in reading my last post it came off a little wrong. i guess i should clarify that i was mad because i think that my husband was hurt. hurt because no one really cares enough to go and pick him up. he is traveling 3000 miles away, to a big city that he doesn't know.

it wasn't expected by him that someone would pick him up, but they had already said that they would. the fact that they backed out and don't care enough to try and help him resolve the issue is what made him hurt. which made me pissed actually, but i didn't mean to come off like some big demanding beeotch. and i swear to you that i would go whereever i needed to go to pick up out of town guests. especially if one of them was my best man. that's all.

Wednesday, June 25, 2008

Are you Effing Kidding Me?

(first of all, sorry i know that graphic is rude, but that's totally how I am feeling.)

So as I previously whined, my husband is going to NYC to be the best man in a wedding.

Today he drove south about 100 miles to the airport. His flight was canceled with the only option being to fly out on Friday. So he came home.

So I canceled that and got him a new flight about 100 miles north of us. So tomorrow he will drive another hundred plus miles in the opposite direction to head east.

After spending all day figuring this out, and canceling tickets and getting new ones etc, etc, etc....the parents of the guy getting married will no longer come and pick my husband up at the airport because he has to fly into JFK now rather than the original arrival airport of Newark. So now, no one will come to pick him up because they don't want to drive into the city-about 65 miles away. ARE YOU EFFING KIDDING ME? Their demeanor/ attitude is basically "figure it out. "

Same applies to him getting to the airport for his trip home. "Oh, well we know that you are coming all the way from the west coast to a city you have never been to, to be here and that it's cost you close to 1500 dollars, but we don't want to come to the city to pick you up so just figure it out."

Here's the tally for just US for this wedding of our friend to a ridiculous girl that we don't really want him to marry:
absurdly expensive tux rental: 200
1st ticket: 500
gas to airport: 75
gas back from airport: 75
(trip to bev mo for liquid strength:50)
2nd ticket: 460
gas to second airport: 75
Taxi from airport in NY:100
Taxi back to airport:100
parking: 80
gas back from airport: 75
GRAND TOTAL: $1330.00

My husband is agro about this and I am too. What kind of jerks just do that? We discussed this and no matter where someone we knew was coming into we would go and get them. Even if it was inconvenient or a hassle because that's what normal do!! They don't just say figure it out.

Gotta go, a stiff drink is calling my name.

Why Dirty Dancing RULES

First and foremost the soundtracks are amazing. There are 2-the one that you probably had in the 80', on tape. And a super secret one that has songs by Solomon Burke and Otis Redding. It you have I tunes or whatvs look it up!

Second, for some reason, even though I find Patrick Swayze completely unattractive, creepy and quite gross, I am totally in love the with movie. The characters are so interesting and plus it has dancing! It's been on satellite late at night lately, and I always get sucked into it----as if the outcome is going to be different and Johnny isn't still going to leave Baby stuck in the Catskills with her parents and kooky sister. Also, I could totally relate with Baby's geekiness. I always felt uncool and awkward like her and wanted to fit in with the cool kids. PLUS-hello?!?! There's dancing.

In other Dirty Dancing news...if you haven't watched this already you should. The first time I saw it was I was pregnant and a hormonal mess and it made me cry for some reason.

What's a movie that sucks you in everytime?

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

So sweet

My child who has been testing me lately with the terms NO and I don't want to, just came up to me and rubbed my arm and said "I love you mommy." And then she ran away giggling.

Then the next thing that she said was "I am tired. I want to take a nap now."

Glorious. A wonderful day, indeed.

Sunday, June 22, 2008

Interested in Swapping?


I have a ton of hardly used stuff-mainly beauty products, hair styling goo and make up. It seems I am an impluse buyer and often buy things that I don't end up liking or using. I hate to throw it away.

I've heard of friends "passing" such things at girls night out. Also things like shoes, purses and clothes.

Ever heard of this? Ever done it? Would you consider doing a beauty product swap if I organized it? or is that weird?

Saturday, June 21, 2008

Feeling Hot, Hot, Hot!

O M G it is so hot here. Generally our summers here are hot, but it was 114 yesterday! And thats south of me near the ocean!!

Ask me how thankful I am for a kick butt AC.

Very, very thankful.

Todays high is 109. Ugh!

How hot is it where you live? What are you doing to keep cool?

Wednesday, June 18, 2008

I'm Frustrated Too, Kid!

I think I should say that I am NOT an alchy in case my last post hinted at that. But some days are worse than others.

Today I feel like a bad mom. My daughter (28 months) woke up at 5am being defiant, and not wanting to go back to sleep. I got so frustrated with her her and yelling and whining that I wanted to strangle her (figure of speech so don't worry). She was crying and sobbing that she didn't want this or that and I almost lost it. I was doing all I could to keep her from waking up her dad and her little sibling. It didn't work.

Once she did wake up for the day, she had about 5 time outs in the first 5 minutes for telling me things like:
No I don't want to!
NOOOOOOOOO!
NOT NOW!
I don't need it anymore!! (Just her version of saying no)

I watched the vein in her neck bulge out while her face got BRIGHT RED from frustration. Over what you ask? Stickers. Yes, people Princess stickers. And then marker and then lunch and then her cup. The yellow one, not the green one that I picked.

Then she fell down and needed me to kiss her owie and she turned back into my sweet little girl. We cuddled for a few minutes and then she patted my head. It made all the drama in the morning worth it.

Why all the anger? Is this something that we are teaching her? We are very calm and easygoing parents and spouses. We don't yell. Where is she learning this? And when will it end? I give her some slack because she is a baby still. What happens when she is a teenager and knows darn well she is being defiant and unreasonable?

Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Am I The Only One....


....Who looks forward to the occasional cocktail after a day of screaming kids? Or even just a day of being a mom.

I am just curious because lately I have really been looking forward to unwinding with a spirit or two (or three) com 9 pm. A new mom friend of mine also referred to being driven to stiff drink after a day of trying to figure out how to make your baby (or babies) happy. So I must not be alone, right?

How do you unwind at the end of a long day? And do you have kids? Does your hubby join you?

Monday, June 16, 2008

Bleh...

I am sick. Like the sickest I have been in a while. I couldn't even cook my husband his special super duper father's day brunch.

Remember being a kid, and being sick. And someone would bring you chicken soup or some 7up and some medicine? And all you wanted to do was get up and play, but you had to stay in bed and rest?

I MISS THOSE DAYS! I WANT TO STAY IN BED AND REST!

I wish someone would make me stay in bed. Is is too much to ask my 2.5 year old to take care of her 8 month old sister? Just kidding!

Wednesday, June 11, 2008

No New York For Me!


So...my hubs' pal is still marrying that girl who is totally not my cup of tea. And My husband is in the wedding. And the wedding is in New York-where I have never been and always wanted to go. And guess what...

...I AM NOT GOING!

Lack of childcare has ruined my whirlwind trip with the hubs to the east coast. With my mom gone, and my dad and his wife in Europe during that time our local options are out. My MIL could do it, but is currently hoping a job will magically land in her lap looking for a job, she doesn't want to be 500 miles away from her own city. Totally understandable, actually. And upon thinking about being 3000 miles from my kids I started feeling better about not going.

Both kids have had plenty of overnights with family. But the thought of my MIL being here with no back up, started freaking me out. True, she has had 2 kids of her own, but she doesn't see my kids that often. She's only seen the littlest one 2 times since birth (she's almost a year) and the oldest one about 5 times. I am sure that she would do just fine with them, but the worries and the scenarios started freaking me out in a totally over analytical way that is so not me.

My husband is not stoked about traveling alone either, I don't blame him. So I am going to try to hide my jealousy.

So while I am disappointed that I will not be in the Today Show audience, seeing the Little Mermaid, or gallivanting in Central Park with my Love, I feel sort of relieved in a very wishy-washy sort of way. It's not like this is going to be our only opportunity to visit the Big Apple.

Monday, June 9, 2008

Weekend Recap Randomness

Yesterday I opened our local news paper and was shocked to find a picture that I sent in.....
My mom left yesterday and of course it was a tad dramatic. She cried. I didn't. She'll be gone until the new year I am sure. But they will act like they will be back in Oct, but then keep changing their plans last min. LAME.

I have a slight hangover, but had a good time with the hubs last night. We rocked out and had some good laughs like the good ol' days before kids.

Who am I kidding, these are the good ol' days and I wouldn't even go back! Life really is good.

This is detox week where we eat really healthy and no booze.

This weekend all bets are off.

Sunday, June 8, 2008

15Things I have Done Today...

  1. Eaten some linguine with clam sauce. Surprisingly not as bad as you think.
  2. Messed with my new hair do, and decided that while I like my new modified bob-ish hair cut, I makes me look fatter.
  3. Read some of my book while lounging in the back yard on a chaise lounge. No kidding, I really did this. (One kid is with Grandma, one kid was napping and one husband was with the guys.)
  4. Watched 2 only ok movies on satellite, Sliding Doors and The Holiday.
  5. Played kissy face with baby after nap time.
  6. Did some laundry.
  7. Actually folded it and put it away.
  8. Ate a Klondike bar
  9. Let baby taste Klondike Bar.
  10. Shopped online. Got a really cute peasant type shirt.
  11. Pondered telling the ex-pal who is posting antagonizing blogs towards me where she can shove it, but then changed my mind and decided to take the high road.
  12. Had 2 beers after midnight while somewhat waiting for hubs to come home.
  13. Realized that this is only like his 2nd ever "Guys Night Out" since we have been married...that I can remember, and I honestly can't recall the one before tonight. Same for me . Does this make us boring?
  14. Maybe I like boring, ok?
  15. Felt thankful that my husband won't drink and drive.
  16. Thought about eating midnight snack, but then decided that beer sounded better.
    Hey, I ain't driving anywhere.

Friday, June 6, 2008

OK, Now I am Mad

So before I claimed not to be mad, just disconnected. Well, now I am mad.I told my husband to round up bail money because I was going to kill my mom this morning.

My mom and her husband are going to be leaving soon. For the 15th year in a row (nearly half my life). Supposedly everyone who actually stays in the same place is supposed to change their entire lives to accommodate their flightiness and incapability of staying put for any extended period of time.

Never can she give me a straightforward answer, "Oh I am not sure if we are going on Friday or Sunday. But that's OK with me, I don't even care anymore, I'll just be in the RV when it's pulling out." Or in a sort of flaky-whimsical voice "Oh, who knows how long we will be gone, that's part of the joy of traveling." Like she is such a free spirit she just can't grow roots.

Recently the sound of her voice has been infuriating me. She's mad when things don't go right and they have issues preventing them from hitting the road. She complains about having to put together the RV with everything they need to be long gone for months. My retort to her complaints (in my head and out loud to my husband) is: IF IT'S SUCH A PAIN IN THE ARSE DON'T GO THEN! And if you do, don't complain about it because once again you are choosing to go.

And don't be all weepy and sad when you leave. It's your choice. Don't be all sensitive when we all just move on with our lives and continue on without tears and long goodbye speeches. We are used to it! That's why we spend holidays with my pops, because he lives in the same place 100% of the time. Like normal people do.

My eldest kid is now with my mom spending some quality time before they take off. My kid lovvvvvvvvvvves my mom (because she is 2 and too young to be annoyed by her yet) and so I am happy that she gets to spend time with her, although I know it will be hard when she wants to go to her house and I have to tell her she can't. In the last 3 days she has literally told me 10 different scenarios about when and what time they will leave and we have made arrangements for me to pick up my kid. Then she'd call minutes, hours or the next day to proclaim "Plans have changed, again." I almost driove the 705 miles to snatch up my kid out of total and complete irateness.

Just figure it out, and do it! I am so over it.

(And now, I shall sulk and feel slighty bad that I am such a mean hateful person.)