Wednesday, April 16, 2008

Speak Now

Ok, so a very good friend of my hubs is engaged. He is engaged to the most obnoxious, arrogant, petty, ridiculous, immature, selfish beeotch that I have ever met. In fact, I can't even stand to be around her so if I have to, I generally drown my sorrows in beer. It's that bad. They fight over things like..... She's always complaining about money, even though she doesn't have a job. So when he wants to drive her small car to work to save money on gas (he drives a full sized truck) she bitches. Or she doesn't want him to drink but she smokes pot. Or she tags along when he goes on guys fishing trips. She has also belittled him in front of others and continually butts in when he needs alone or guy time. She is pretty much just an idiot. I n the past she has called me old, criticized my choice of flowers in my garden, and questioned my parenting--even thought she has now kids and is like 23.

Now, my hubs and I love our alone time. We need it. We think it's important to have a good relationship. And we rarely fight. So maybe I am partial. But I can't imagine being married to this.

So my husband is in the wedding. And it's back east and we are going and all that. I would never stand up and object, but isn't it like our responsibility to counsel him or something. She wants to have kids right away and while he doesn't I could totally she her getting knocked up to lock him in.

I know that our pal is a big boy and can make decisions for himself. But he's already said that they have stayed together out of being comfortable.

Are we supposed to say something? Or are we to forever hold our peace?


Constance said...

Definitely hold peace. The guy is RIGHT THERE when his fiancee is bitching at him, right? So, he knows already. The thing about "staying together because it's comfortable" is so blatantly untrue (it's not comfortable to be with someone critical and bitchy) that I'd translate it as "I know you don't like her, so I'm trying to agree with you but also keep doing what I'm doing."

Constance the 14,000th said...

good call constance! that's why i never say anything. it's not like he can't see how she is!

Woman with a Hatchet said...

I'd say something. This is supposed to be a good friend, right? Perhaps he's blinded by how amazing she is in the sack or something equally ridiculous.

It will hurt more in the long run for them to marry, possibly have children and then screw them all up due to internal conflicts and then get a messy divorce.

So, to be utterly cliche: think of the children! : )

"Constance-1-M" said...

How close are the friends? I mean, your hubs could offer the standard "Keys are in the truck, truck's in the driveway waiting if you wanna back out. Just say the word."

If he doesn't take the hint, he'll take it as a joke ...

Or he doesn't mind how she is 'cause she's great when they are alone.