Friday, July 25, 2008

Anger, is that you?



...that woman is me! It's been a long time since I have felt actual anger. The kind that I just can't quickly move past. The sitch today has got me all in a tizzy and I hate it! Especially when the person who is provoking me doesn't even know the truth of the matter. And going to MySpace and posting jabs thru the status update is just ridiculous and immature. But some how I have let it make me really mad---like I want to call her mad and tell her to get her facts and then do her talking. It made me want to be immature and sink to her level!! I realize that someone as arrogant as she is not EVER going to get it, especially if her husband lies to her. But it still really bothers me that she is trying to provoke me. It's making me conjure up the old me who sorta liked to have drama and loved to put people in their place. It's also making me want to give her a big old does of reality with the back of my hand, but of course, that is so not me. I really hate being angry, so somehow I need to figure out a way to move on. Cocktail, anyone?

A Little Rant or My Head May Explode * updated

Hi C's!

Remember a while back when my husband had whirlwind trip back east to be the best man in his friends' wedding? Did I mention at that time that that friend was also one of our employees? Well, he was. We will call him H. He had worked for us since about September last year. He and my husband met about 5 year ago, just before we were getting married. We used to have great times together, cooking, drinking and hanging out. H moved to the east coast, and then moved back last year with his bride to be.

Yesterday, my husband had to fire him and it wasn't pretty. H was employed with us because he had all his tools, a truck and a certain level of skill that his job required. Over the past few months, he has totally lost all drive and motivation (could it be because that he was marrying Brunhilda?) and basically was not the best employee. He was constantly complaining about money and being poor and the rising gas prices etc but did nothing to help his situation by working harder or more. We are sure that he thinks because our name is on the business that we are incredibly wealth and we roll around in hundred dollar bills at night. Anyhow, he's no showed before because he found a better job (or so he thought) and the called begging for his job back. My husband said ok.

Yesterday my husband told him that he needed to drive his truck to the job, rather than his wife's little commuter car, because he needed to take his own tools to the job and couldn't leave them there. H's response was "Sorry, I can't I can't afford the gas." This was the straw that broke my husbands back. The job is about 25 minutes from his house. So, seeing that he refused to do his job as required, my husband told him to take the day off and that he would have his paycheck for him things got a little ugly and he ended up getting fired.

Today my husband brought H's tools and check to the job site for him to pick up. H came, and took his stuff and called my husband a f-ing asshole which has got me infuriated right now. Why, you ask? Because my husband is anything but that. And apparently H cannot see what he did wrong here. I am furious that we spent more than one thousand dollars for my husband to be his best man and that he is so rude and ungrateful that he can't perform his job as required because the price of gas is so high!! Gas prices affect us as well, but you don't see me telling him that I can't afford to pay him because of the economy. I am not complaining, owning a business costs a lot of money. For every 16 we pay an employee, we are actually paying 26+ because of workers comp, liability, and payroll taxes. Not to mention all the other business related expenses that we have. We are a little comfortable right now, but by no means rolling around in $100 bills, ya'll.

I suppose that the kicker is that he drove about 60 miles in his truck, to our home last weekend to BBQ and drink beer and hang out, but can't afford to drive to his job to get paid? Interesting. I have to say that H was a really cool guy in the past. Like, really cool. Very comfortable, and polite. I know right now, my husband is mad. But I would be hurt. And then mad again. Whatevs, I guess.

2:41 pm UPDATE: So H's wife went the mature route and posted something lame on myspace about hating it when people say they are your friend and don't give a sh&t about your well being. Just wondering--is it my responsibility to make sure that her husband does is job or are we supposed to pay him to be lazy? Just asking. Obvs he didn't tell his wife the whole truth! GRRRRRRRRR I am mad!)

Tuesday, July 22, 2008

I Really Hate Surprises

I LOVE my grandparents dearly. They come and visit us a lot and that's nice because it's hard to travel with kids. I love that my girls are getting to enjoy them the same way that I did when I was little. They are still vibrant and fun and silly.

BUT...

what makes them thinks that it's good to surprise a mom of 2 kids who tries to run a business from home with the following sentence, "We should be there in a few hours."

AHHHHHHHHHHHH!

Can't talk now, the cleaning products are calling my name.

Thursday, July 17, 2008

Vs.

Things That Are Lame
1. When you leave a Diet Coke in the freezer and forget about it, only to wake up to a freezer that looks like a sparkling brown catacomb.
2. When you just can't find the right words. Two people I know what recently gone through some very traumatic and serious events. The kind of events that are heart wrenching and horrible, and seem like they are never going to get better. I NEVER know what to say. I feel like no matter what I say it's just not right.
3. When you get up very early, and feel energized and amazing until about noon and then you want to crash and take a nap but you can't because there is too much to do.

VS.

Things That Are NOT Lame
1. When you realize that it's 6:30 and that it is officially appropriate to have a small cocktail to help relax.
2. When you are ready to make a really delicious dinner for a very hard working husband-who really, really deserves it.
3. When you realize that it's about 1.5 hours away from bedtime for your kids and that you have Tivo'd Project Runway!

Monday, July 14, 2008

Yipee, Trash TV!

Just the other day I was loving my Direct TV, and was looking for some trash tv. You know, some Rock of Love, or some Kardashians. There was nothing.

Then last night, after an exhausting weekend, as I lay in my comfortable bed with a sleeping house, I turn on VH1 and find Brooke Knows Best and I Love Money. I am not sure which one I am going to like better. I Love Money had Destiney and Meghan from Rock of Love. So something tells me that I Love Money will not disappoint, solely based on this clip I saw before drifting off to sleep...

Saturday, July 12, 2008

3 Things

a few of my fab friends have commented that i have been missing, and are wondering if i am ok. yep, i am ok. i am alive, i have a wonderful husband, some great kids and life is pretty good. i guess i am suffering from what i refer to as the "dalies". my daily schedule has become monotonous and routine and i wonder how long i can keep it up without going insane. then i feel ungrateful and stupid for not being BEYOND THRILLED that I have the life i/we always wanted. there are people out there way less fortunate and i am complaining???? what gives me the right? i am such a jerk.

so in an effort to be less cynical and more positive, i want to know 3 positive things about your life. they can be as simple as not having any laundry to fold to something more complex like surviving a nasty breakup.

it's always better to think positive and reflect on the things that we should be thankful for. what are three things that are good in your life?

(i'll bet you get a bit of lift just from thinking of those 3 things! =)

Tuesday, July 1, 2008

Your MIL: how crazy is she?

I always imagined my MIL and I would be pals, shopping buddies and at least friends. We are far from it. I wish that she our relationship was different. I do feel that I have tried to do some things to better our relationship, but they never seem to work. Even my husband agrees so that makes the sitch a little better. He's used to his moms' crazy shenanigans, something that I am still getting used to after being married for almost 4 years.

What's the oddest, rudest, or plain right lamest thing your MIL has done to you? (or your own relative if your MIL doesn't apply.)