Tuesday, July 1, 2008

Your MIL: how crazy is she?

I always imagined my MIL and I would be pals, shopping buddies and at least friends. We are far from it. I wish that she our relationship was different. I do feel that I have tried to do some things to better our relationship, but they never seem to work. Even my husband agrees so that makes the sitch a little better. He's used to his moms' crazy shenanigans, something that I am still getting used to after being married for almost 4 years.

What's the oddest, rudest, or plain right lamest thing your MIL has done to you? (or your own relative if your MIL doesn't apply.)

16 comments:

ConstanceTheSuper said...

Hubby had been through a rough patch and was doing a great job of getting physically healthy and mentally healthy and all that. He'd been working out and eating right and he was looking slimmer and was more relaxed and we went to see the ILs. MIL says, "Wow! You've lost weight! Just don't gain it back again."

I think that not punching her in face was a strength on my part. She's narcissistic and mean and she takes it out on her kids. I almost wish that she was mean to me--that would be easier to take. Of course, MY mom picks up the slack there.

Constance65 said...

Oh, how could I narrow it down??? I had my fil tell me that at least my 2nd won't be a bastard!?!???!!! Cause, my oldest was from a long term relationship with someone else...who is still active in his life. I never felt the same about my fil after that. I have to agree though with constancethesuper....my parents seem to pick up the slack when the in-laws are behaving.

Constance65 said...

Oops....didn't read the question right. My mil. What she does on a daily basis of boosting up my sil and neglecting her son and grandchildren. Telling her son that he is "so very lucky" to get that job, as though he doesn't deserve it. He earned it. Luck may have gotten him the interview...but his interview, intelligence and...oh my god, those blue eyes, got him the job!

"Constance-1-M" said...

I could write a book about my mother/MIL & Step-monsterIL ...

Oh wait! I wrote a blog instead!!!!

I think as a general rule women learn to be mean & snarky from their mothers. They need to set better examples for us!

Constance the 14,000th said...

my mil has a list. here's a snippet...
1. she once sent my husband a scathing letter in regards to my other blog, saying that we don't include her in it enough. (she lives 500 miles away.) a letter like that would have made me cry.
2. sat at our babyshower for my eldest child with arms crossed and when people tried to talk to her she would respond with 1 word answers.
3. invited herself to come spend a christmas with us...two days after we moved into a new house..and 2 days before christmas. did she ever think we might want to be alone?
4. came to thanksgiving and was stand offish and super rude to my family and the other guests because we had invited them! she eventually got mad at me because i was letting MY kid play outside with no shoes on. she ended up taking my youngest (a baby) and hiding out in her nursery until every last guest had gone home.
i could keep going and going and going....

Constance the Sixty Sixth said...

My MIL sent my SIL (her OWN DAUGHTER!!!) a BILL for the time she spent with her after her grandaughter was born. I t was itmeized, including any tolls she paid on the roads there (while visiting HER friends!) AND, are you ready for this??? THEN, she called them 3 weeks later from a car dealership tot ell my SIL that she needed her to bay the bill RIGHT NOW so that she could buy a car. The bill was for like 13K!!!!!

She has also disowned my SIl and my husband. The first thing she EVER said to me was, "so, you're the one who is going to marry the son who ruined my life!"

She's a joy....

ConstanceTheThird said...

I hate my MIL. She's your typical, "It's all about ME ME ME ME ME" pain in the ass.

I've determined that she must have banged her head good at one point b/c after my husband's Traumatic Brain Injury he's just like her.

constance the eleventh said...

Wow, y'all have some crazy stories. Mine is not so bad- but she gives a lot of backhanded compliments. Stuff like, "Oh, your hair looks so much better than it did the last time I saw you!"

When my FIL found out we were engaged, he asked my husband if he was really sure he wanted to marry me, because we were young and he "might find more wild oats he wanted to sow."

Christy said...

Why does everyone's name have "constance" in it? I am confused.

Anyways, my MIL is crazy. LITERALLY (she has actually been in and out of mental institutions). She is very self absorbed, and can only talk about herself and her cats. It is irritating.

Constance the 14,000th said...

all of us constances live here in the secret apartment. we have other blogs, but remain anon here so we can be free to talk about whatever we want! =)

Constance the Billionth said...

My MIL is my angel here on earth. My MOTHER on the other hand??? Just come visit my apt....and catch up from beginning. I have a WHOLE blog on how crazy and insane she is. :)

Thank goodness your husband is on YOUR side, otherwise I would say run for the hills lady!

Constance the Eleventy-fifth said...

I'm a little late to the party, but...My MIL died before we got married (but she was the sweetest woman). However, I have 6 older SILs to make up for it. I love them all, but one is a pain. She releatedly invited us over for dinner and when we'd get there, no one would be home (or her husband would be there alone and have no idea we were coming). Several times, she told us that so an so (her son/daughter, etc) would like us to come to their house for a holiday and when we showed up, everyone was already well into dinner at a table that obviously was set for a group that didn't include us. The host(ess) was always gracious, and obviously had no idea we were coming. And when we were planning the wedding, she informed me that she was getting all her sisters to wear matching white dresses to my wedding. When I told her that I would appreciate if she didn't, she decided that they would all dress to match the bridesmaids. Um. . .no. I called my favorite (non-crazy) SIL and she assured me that they are not all crazy and would be doing no such thing. (and the reason non of them were bridesmaids is that they are all quite a bit older than me and I had their kids and grandkids in the wedding)

just me said...
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just me said...

Dad was dying...in the hospital with cancer....I got the call that it was going to 'happen' within hours...husband couldn't get off work...I needed to leave 3 children (her grandchildren) somewhere so we could go to the hospital....she would only take the older 2, youngest was 6 months old...too much trouble....I had to make an extra trip to a friends house to get him settled in....got to the hospital MINUTES after my dad had died.

We never talked about it, but I guess I never forgave her....it was just one of MANY times where she let me know how unimportant I was to her.

Anonymous said...

My MIL is a saint, my SIL that is a whole other story. I too had dreams of us having this awesome relationship especially since we have daughters close to the same age. All she does is compete with me and try to drive a wedge between my MIL and I. The stories of the awful things she has done to me are too numerous. One is days after having my daughter I was really struggling with breastfeeding and she straight up yelled in my face in the middle of me getting her to latch on "come on it isn't that hard just do it!" I am so passive I just sat there and cried, she could have cared less she walked out of the room in a huff. She also told me once that my daughter would never be as special as her son to her mom because he was her mother's first grand baby and nothing could replace that. As if I was trying to. I am sorry your MIL is so awful I just read the things she has done to you.

I miss you! I haven't read for a while we have been busy this summer.

SO

Constance 50 said...

My MIL (and all my husbands family) lives about 500 miles away, too. THANK GOD. She is a drunk and she doesn't act her age.